Don’t Open The Gift Too Soon
The book of Song of Solomon is a beautiful reminder that sex is God’s gift for a husband and wife. Throughout the book, we see romance, attraction, affection, and commitment. It celebrates love as God designed it.
Yet in the middle of all the romantic dialogue, the woman repeats the same warning three different times:
“Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.”
Why would she say that?
Because some gifts are wonderful, but they must be opened at the right time.
Imagine finding a beautifully wrapped gift with your name on it. The temptation is to tear it open immediately. But if the gift is meant for a later date, opening it too soon can rob you of the joy and purpose it was intended to bring.
Sex is one of God’s gifts. The gift isn’t the problem. The timing is.
Our culture tells us to follow our feelings, satisfy our desires, and pursue whatever makes us happy in the moment. God’s Word tells us to exercise self-control, honor Him with our bodies, and wait for His timing.
Song of Solomon reminds us that attraction is normal. Desire is normal. Romance is normal.
But just because something is good doesn’t mean it is time.
Three times the woman charges young women not to stir up or awaken love before its proper time. Through all the passion and romance, she still points us toward patience.
If you’re single, don’t mistake waiting for punishment. God isn’t withholding something good from you. He is protecting a gift He designed to be enjoyed within marriage.
Don’t open the gift too soon. Trust the One who wrapped it.
He knows exactly when it’s time.
Wanting More
“Whom have I in heaven but You? And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides You.” — Psalm 73:25
It seems our human nature often has us wanting more. Yearning for better.
The perfect relationship (which doesn’t exist).
A bigger house.
A better job,
A smaller waistline.
Fewer wrinkles—the list can go on and on.
But may I encourage you to exercise some patience. Be content where you are.
I’m not speaking of areas that don’t line up with the Father’s will or situations that are unhealthy. However, if you are living righteously and walking in His will, be content where He has you for this season.
I know you’re tired of being single. I know you’re tired of that job you don’t like. I know you’re ready for the next chapter. But don’t be in such a rush that you miss the lesson or the blessing God is trying to teach you right where you are.
Waiting is an expression of trust. It is a declaration that says, “God, I believe Your timing is better than mine.”
One of the greatest dangers during a season of waiting is trying to meet a God-given need in a God-forbidden way. You can’t satisfy a spiritual need with a physical substitute. You can’t find lasting fulfillment outside the will of God.
Instead of yearning for what you don’t have, yearn for Jesus. He is the only One who can truly satisfy the deepest longings of your heart.
Perhaps God created us with that desire for more so that it would ultimately lead us to desire more of Him.
Struggling? Pray!
When temptation feels strong, don’t just sit with it—pray.
God never intended for us to fight our battles alone. His Holy Spirit is our Helper, Counselor, and Guide.
When we invite Him into our struggle, He gives us the strength to choose obedience over impulse and purpose over pleasure.
If you’re struggling today, pray this simple prayer:
Heavenly Father, I make the decision to change. I recognize that I cannot overcome temptation in my own strength. Thank You for giving me Your Holy Spirit to help, guide, and strengthen me. Open my ears to hear Your voice and soften my heart to obey. I surrender my desires, thoughts, and actions to You. Help me use my body in a way that honors and glorifies You. Give me the strength to walk in purity, even when it’s difficult. Thank You for Your grace, mercy, and forgiveness when I fall short. In Jesus’ name, amen.
“No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful…” — 1 Corinthians 10:13
Remember, victory doesn’t begin when the temptation disappears. It begins when you turn to God in the middle of the struggle. Pray first. Listen closely. Then take the next obedient step.
Bold Living
Living boldly for Christ means making decisions that protect your walk with Him, even when those decisions are uncomfortable.
Men, if the woman you’re dating consistently dresses in a way that stirs temptation, have an honest conversation with her. Ask her to help you pursue purity. If she refuses to respect your convictions, it may be time to walk away.
Women, if a man is constantly whispering sweet nothings in your ear in an attempt to get you into bed, shut it down. If he won’t respect your boundaries, move on. Anyone who truly cares about you will also care about your relationship with God.
Too many people try to fight temptation while keeping the temptation close by.
That’s not wisdom—that’s playing with fire.
Ask God to reveal any areas of neglect in your life.
What have you allowed to remain that is pulling you away from Him?
What boundaries have become blurred?
What compromises have you justified?
Then be bold enough to act.
Delete the number.
End the relationship.
Leave the environment.
Remove the app.
Set the boundary.
Jesus said in Matthew 5:30,
“And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away.”
Jesus wasn’t promoting self-harm; He was teaching us to deal radically with sin. Anything that repeatedly pulls you away from God is too expensive to keep.
Bold living isn’t doing whatever you want. Bold living is having the courage to do what God wants, even when it costs you something.
Protecting Boundaries Part 2
You’re probably thinking,
“There have been a lot of posts about boundaries.”
And honestly?
That’s because boundaries are essential when it comes to maintaining your abstinence.
Boundaries close off access to anything—or anyone—that can hinder your progress.
Not everyone will understand your boundaries.
Not everyone will respect them.
But anyone unwilling to respect your boundaries should not have access to you.
Give those people the benediction while you continue to WAIT.
The hunger for sin can sometimes feel more natural than the hunger for God.
That’s why we must constantly examine our desires and make sure they do not supersede God’s will.
Because lust rarely reveals its true cost upfront.
Sometimes it feels like lust hides its price so you won’t fully see what temporary pleasure is actually costing you.
Peace.
Purity.
Discipline.
Progress.
Intimacy with God.
The enemy loves distraction because distraction delays transformation.
So let’s not get distracted by appearances, emotions, or temporary cravings.
The goal is not to draw closer to what we want.
The goal is to draw closer to what we truly need.
And what we need will always be found in God.
Share this two-part series with someone that needs to be reminded boundaries are necessary.
Protecting Boundaries
Boundaries.
Even the word itself can sound restrictive.
Our flesh doesn’t like boundaries, which is why the thought of setting them can sometimes feel discouraging or unnecessary.
But boundaries are not designed to destroy us.
They are designed to protect us.
Boundaries protect our spirit and soul from the self-destructive power of lust.
Do you sleep with your doors and windows wide open?
Probably not.
You lock your doors.
You close your windows.
You secure what’s valuable.
So why would we protect our homes more carefully than we protect our hearts, minds, and spirits?
God does not establish boundaries to punish you.
He establishes them to protect you.
Most of the time, we think we are strong enough to fight lust without guardrails.
We assume self-control alone will be enough.
But lust was here before you.
Lust has destroyed marriages, ministries, careers, reputations, and destinies.
It has pulled down powerful people from high positions and left devastation behind.
Our physical strength is no match for it.
Outside of the power of God, no one can withstand its traps on their own.
That is why boundaries matter.
Not because you are weak…
but because wisdom understands what is at stake.
Your “no” today may protect your future tomorrow.
You’ve Got the Wrong Person
1 Corinthians 1:26–31
Paul reminds us that not many were considered wise, powerful, or impressive by the world’s standards when God called them. God intentionally chooses people society overlooks so His glory—not our résumé—gets the credit.
The beautiful thing about God is He doesn’t wait for us to become impressive before He uses us.
According to 1 Corinthians 1, He actually specializes in using the people the world would overlook.
When the Lord placed WAIT on my heart, my first thought was, “Jesus… You’ve got the wrong person.”
But then I was reminded of 1 Corinthians 1:26–31.
God isn’t impressed with our resumes.
He’s moved by the willingness of our hearts.
We tend to look at people through the wrong lens.
We disqualify ourselves because of our past.
Because of our mistakes.
Because of our sin.
But God has always used imperfect people to reveal His perfect glory.
God can use you no matter where you’ve come from or what you’ve done.
Even the sexual sin you think has placed you too far gone…
God can redeem it.
He can use your story to help someone else find freedom, healing, and hope.
Jesus wants the world to know this:
We are not loved because of who we are or what we’ve done.
We are loved in spite of it.
That’s grace.
That’s mercy.
And that’s the kind of love only Jesus gives.
Check Your Circle
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” — Jim Rohn
Take a moment and really think about that.
If that’s true… what does your circle look like?
Who is influencing your decisions?
Who is shaping your standards?
Who is speaking into your life when no one else is around?
Because whether we realize it or not, the people around us are always pulling us somewhere—closer to purpose… or further from it.
When I made the decision to abstain, I was very intentional about who I shared that with. I didn’t announce it to everyone. I told people who would support me, not sabotage me.
I needed accountability.
I needed covering.
I needed to be around people who weren’t just talking about God—but actually trying to live for Him.
Because the truth is… not everyone will clap for your obedience.
Some people will question it.
Some will tempt you.
Some will try to make you feel like you’re doing too much.
That’s why your circle matters.
The Bible gives us a beautiful picture of friendship in Mark 2:1–11. A paralyzed man couldn’t get to Jesus on his own—but he had four friends who refused to let that be the end of his story. They carried him, climbed a roof, and lowered him down just to get him in front of Jesus.
And Scripture says it was their faith that moved Jesus.
That kind of friendship?
That’s rare.
Those are the kind of people you need in your life.
Friends who don’t just sit with you in your struggle…
but will carry you when you’re too weak to walk.
Friends who won’t let you settle…
but will push you toward Jesus—even when it’s inconvenient.
Friends who protect your purpose, not pressure you to compromise it.
Because who you walk with will determine where you end up.
“Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” — Proverbs 13:20
So if you’ve made the decision to WAIT…
Don’t just change your behavior—check your circle.
Because the right people won’t make your obedience harder…
they’ll help you stay faithful to it.
If your circle isn’t helping you get closer to Jesus… it might be time to reevaluate who you’re walking with.
Share this with someone who is helping you walk this thing out the right way.
What We Feed, Grows
Waiting is hard.
Especially when it comes to purity.
Because while you’re waiting…
everything around you is telling you not to.
Culture says, “Do what feels good.”
God says, “Exercise self-control.”
And somewhere in the middle of that tension…
is you.
Trying to stay committed to something that isn’t always easy.
Truth be told—waiting isn’t just about avoiding sex.
It’s about what you’re allowing in while you wait.
Because what you feed… will eventually lead you.
Drugs & Alcohol
According to the Kaiser Family Foundation, 29% of teens and young adults ages 15–24 said they’ve “done more” sexually while under the influence than they normally would sober.
That’s not just a statistic.
That’s lowered guards.
That’s compromised convictions.
Drugs and alcohol don’t just relax you…
they remove the very boundaries you set when you were thinking clearly.
And suddenly, the “I would never”
turns into “I didn’t mean to.”
Pornography
What once was hidden is now one click away.
The pornography industry has grown from billions… to even more billions—now generating over $12 billion annually.
But this isn’t just about money.
It’s about what it’s doing to hearts…
to minds…
to expectations.
Porn doesn’t just show you something—
it shapes you.
It teaches you to crave what isn’t real,
and then makes real intimacy harder to recognize.
Masturbation
The Bible may not call it out by name,
but it speaks clearly about what surrounds it—lust and self-control.
“But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” — Matthew 5:28
“A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.” — Proverbs 25:28
A city without walls has no protection.
No boundaries.
No defense.
And that’s what happens when self-control is removed.
Abstaining from sex until marriage isn’t just about saying “no” to one thing.
It’s about saying “yes” to discipline.
“Yes” to obedience.
“Yes” to doing it God’s way… even when it’s hard.
Because let’s be real—
culture has already declared sexual morality dead.
They’ll tell you it’s unrealistic.
Outdated.
Too much to expect.
But God’s truth doesn’t expire.
It doesn’t adjust to trends.
It doesn’t bend to culture.
It stands.
Waiting isn’t wasted.
But you have to be intentional about what you’re doing while you wait.
Because if you’re feeding your flesh…
your flesh will lead.
But if you’re feeding your spirit…
your spirit will strengthen you.
Don’t just say you’re waiting…
guard what’s trying to grow while you wait.
Share this with someone who’s trying to do it God’s way… even when it’s not easy.
Sex Isn’t Love
In my Tina Turner voice…
“What’s love got to do with it?”
Let’s be honest—some people are using the word love to get what they want.
But anyone who pressures you to step into sin does not love you. Not biblically. Not truly.
Because when you line it up with Scripture, it doesn’t hold.
1 Corinthians 13:4–7 tells us exactly what love is:
Love is patient.
Love is kind.
It does not dishonor others.
It is not self-seeking.
So let’s tell the truth plainly—
Pressure is not patience, manipulation is not kindness, and lust is not love.
Sex might fill a moment.
It might feel like closeness.
It might even look like connection.
But it cannot fill the place that only real love was designed to occupy.
Because sex isn’t love.
Outside of marriage, it steps outside of God’s design. And anything outside of His design will always leave you reaching for more.
But here’s the part I need you to hold onto:
You do not have to give your body to receive love.
You do not have to compromise your standards to be chosen.
You do not have to earn what God has already freely given.
God loves you—fully, completely, without condition.
Not because of what you do…
but because of who He is.
“We love because He first loved us.” — 1 John 4:19
So if someone is asking you to step outside of God’s will to “prove” your love…
that’s not love talking.
That’s something else.
And you’re allowed to walk away from anything that tries to redefine what God has already made clear.
Don’t let a temporary feeling convince you to make a permanent compromise.
Share this with someone who needs the reminder:
You are already loved—no proving required.
What Are You Really Afraid Of?
There’s a question most people don’t ask themselves honestly…
Why is it so hard to wait?
We say it’s love.
We say it’s connection.
We say it’s “just what people do.”
But if we slow down long enough to tell the truth…
Deep down, the reluctance to give up sex isn’t always about desire.
It’s about fear.
Fear that if we don’t give it up…
we’ll be left.
Fear that if we don’t hold on physically…
we’ll lose them emotionally.
Fear that if we say no…
we’ll end up alone.
And beneath all of that…
is a deeper fear:
“What if nothing ever fills this void?”
Fear will always push you to settle.
Fear doesn’t lead—it pressures.
It whispers lies like:
“This is the only way to keep them.”
“You won’t find anyone else.”
“Something is better than nothing.”
So instead of waiting with confidence…
we settle out of anxiety.
Instead of trusting God…
we try to secure something ourselves.
But anything built on fear will always require you to compromise to keep it.
And that’s a heavy price to pay.
The void is real… but so is the truth.
Let’s not pretend the void isn’t there.
The desire to be loved…
to be seen…
to feel close to someone…
That’s real.
God created that.
But what fear does is convince you to fill a God-sized space with a temporary substitute.
And it never works.
Because what feels like connection in the moment…
often leaves you emptier afterward.
Why?
Because physical intimacy was never meant to carry the weight of emotional healing or spiritual fulfillment.
Jesus fills what people never could.
The truth is simple… but not always easy to accept:
No person can fill what only Jesus was designed to fill.
Not attention.
Not affection.
Not sex.
Not a relationship.
Only Him.
When you allow Him into those empty places—
the ones you’ve been trying to cover, rush, or ignore—
He doesn’t just “help”…
He restores.
He brings peace where there was pressure.
Security where there was fear.
Wholeness where there was lack.
And suddenly…
You’re no longer choosing to WAIT out of restriction—
you’re choosing to WAIT from a place of fullness.
Jesus said it plainly:
“Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and He will give you everything you need.”— Matthew 6:33
Everything you need.
Not everything you fear losing.
Not everything you’re trying to force.
Everything you actually need.
Including love.
Including companionship.
Including purpose.
But it comes in His timing…
and His way.
And what God gives…
you won’t have to compromise to keep.
WAIT isn’t about punishment.
It’s about protection.
It’s about alignment.
It’s about trusting that God knows what He’s doing with your life.
You are not going to miss out by doing things God’s way.
You’re going to be preserved by it.
So the real question isn’t just:
“Can you WAIT?”
It’s:
“What are you believing that makes you feel like you can’t?”
Because once fear is replaced with truth…
WAIT stops feeling like loss—
and starts looking like wisdom.
You don’t have to fill the void—Jesus already can.
Share this with someone who’s been struggling to WAIT—not because they don’t love God, but because they’re afraid to be alone.
Single Silvers, Same Standard
There’s a quiet narrative that often goes unchallenged…
That purity, boundaries, and waiting are conversations for the young.
But the truth is—God’s standard doesn’t age out.
According to the CDC, rates of some of the most serious STDs—chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis—have risen among older adults in recent years. That alone should cause us to pause.
Not in fear… but in awareness.
We’re living in a time where:
People are living longer
Medications have extended sexual activity into later years
Divorce rates in mid-life have increased
Online dating has made new connections easier—but not always safer
And many entering this stage of life were never taught about sexual health the way later generations were.
But here’s what hasn’t changed:
God’s design.
Hebrews 13:4 reminds us:
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure…”
By all.
Not just the young. Not just newlyweds. Not just those figuring life out.
All.
There’s a misconception that once you’ve lived a little, experienced a lot, or even been married before… the standards somehow loosen.
They don’t.
Because purity was never about age—it’s about alignment.
And let’s be honest…
There is no age limit on:
Heartbreak
Emotional attachment
Regret
Or consequences
But there is also no age limit on:
Obedience
Self-control
Wisdom
And starting again
Whether you’re 25 or 65…
The WAIT still matters.
Not because God is trying to restrict you…
But because He is protecting you.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 says:
“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain… that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor.”
Holiness doesn’t retire.
Honor doesn’t expire.
And wisdom doesn’t go out of style.
If you’re in a season of dating again… navigating relationships after divorce… or simply desiring companionship…
Let this be your anchor:
You don’t have to follow culture to find connection.
You don’t have to compromise to feel wanted.
And you don’t have to rush what God has already ordered.
There is no age limit on choosing God’s way.
And there is no regret in doing it His way.
WAIT.
Not out of fear…
But out of faith.
You’ve lived enough life to know this:
Peace is always worth more than a moment. Choose wisely.
Share this with someone who thinks it’s “too late” to do things God’s way.
Don’t Get Tired of Doing Good
There’s a quiet temptation that shows up when you’ve been doing the right thing for a long time…
…and nothing seems to be changing.
You’ve been praying.
You’ve been waiting.
You’ve been choosing right over easy.
You’ve been honoring God behind the scenes.
And if you’re honest… you’re tired.
Not tired of God.
Just tired of waiting.
But this is where many people miss it.
They don’t fall off because they don’t know what’s right…
They fall off because they get tired of doing it.
Don’t let weariness make you walk away from what obedience started.
The WAIT Isn’t Wasted
Waiting can feel like nothing is happening.
But heaven doesn’t operate on what you see.
While you’re waiting…
God is working.
Working on you.
Working on them.
Working on things you don’t even know need to be worked on yet.
What feels like a delay is often divine preparation.
Instead of letting frustration take over…
let worship take its place.
Worship shifts your focus from:
“What’s not happening” → to → “Who is in control.”
When you worship, you’re saying:
God, I trust You… even here.
Even now.
Even when I don’t see it.
And that kind of faith?
It moves the heart of God.
Scripture gives us both a promise and a condition:
“Let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” — Galatians 6:9
The harvest is coming.
But it’s attached to your consistency.
Not your perfection.
Not your feelings.
Your consistency.
The enemy doesn’t need you to become evil…
he just needs you to become exhausted.
Because exhaustion whispers,
“It’s not worth it.”
But God says,
“It will be.”
Keep Showing Up
Keep praying.
Keep choosing right.
Keep honoring God.
Keep waiting well.
Because your “due season” is not a maybe…
it’s a promise.
And when it comes, you won’t regret a single moment you stayed faithful.
Don’t let temporary weariness make you forfeit an eternal harvest.
Share this with someone who’s tired of doing right and needs a reminder not to quit.
Fight For Your Future
What you do today doesn’t stay in today.
It follows you.
It shows up later… in places you never intended it to go.
When it comes to sex, culture says “it’s just physical.”
But God says it’s spiritual.
Scripture teaches that sex creates a bond—one that goes deeper than the body.
“Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, ‘The two will become one flesh.’” — 1 Corinthians 6:16
That “one flesh” connection doesn’t just disappear because the relationship ends.
So when we step outside of God’s design, we don’t just walk away—we carry pieces of that connection with us.
And if we’re not careful, we bring that baggage straight into our future marriage.
Emotionally.
Mentally.
Spiritually.
But here’s the truth that changes everything:
You get to decide what you bring into your marriage.
You can bring peace…
or comparison.
Purity…
or regret.
Freedom…
or memories that compete with what God is trying to build.
Today’s decisions are tomorrow’s results.
So fight for your future marriage now.
Not when you meet “the one.”
Not when you get engaged.
Now.
Because the standard you set today will either protect your future… or complicate it.
And let’s be clear—God is not trying to take something from you.
He created sex.
He designed it for pleasure, connection, and unity.
But He also designed boundaries—not to restrict you, but to protect you.
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” — John 10:10
God’s way leads to life.
The enemy’s way always leads to loss.
So if you haven’t had sex yet—keep waiting.
Not because you’re missing out… but because you’re protecting something sacred.
And if you already have?
There is no shame here.
There is grace.
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us… and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” — 1 John 1:9
God isn’t holding your past over your head.
He’s offering you a fresh start.
A clean slate.
A new direction.
Because He loves you too much to leave you where you were.
So starting today…
WAIT.
Not out of fear.
Not out of pressure.
But out of purpose.
Because one day, when you’re standing in your marriage, you’ll realize—
You didn’t just wait…
you fought for something worth keeping.
Share this with someone who needs a reminder: what you do today will show up in your tomorrow.
Fight The Feelings
Following your feelings can be dangerous.
Think about it…
How often do your feelings change about the same situation?
One moment you’re sure. The next, you’re unsure.
One day you’re committed. The next, you’re questioning everything.
Feelings are unstable.
They shift with circumstances, moods, and moments.
And if we’re honest…
How many emotional decisions have led to regret?
That’s the problem with letting feelings lead.
They were never designed to be your compass.
Jeremiah 17:9 reminds us:
“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?”
Your feelings aren’t irrelevant…
but they are unreliable leaders.
God didn’t leave us to figure life out based on emotions.
He gave us His Word.
His Word brings clarity where feelings bring confusion.
His truth brings stability where emotions bring chaos.
“For God is not a God of confusion but of peace…” — 1 Corinthians 14:33
Let’s talk about one area where feelings often take over—sexual desire.
God is not trying to ruin your life or take away your fun.
He’s protecting you.
Sex is powerful.
It was created with purpose, not just pleasure.
When it’s taken outside of God’s design, it doesn’t just stay physical…
it becomes emotional, spiritual, and sometimes even destructive.
What starts as a feeling can turn into a stronghold.
That’s why God gives boundaries—not to restrict you,
but to protect you from unnecessary pain, attachment, and confusion.
So the real question is…
What are your feelings leading you into right now?
Because whatever you allow into your soul
has the power to shape your future.
Not everything that feels good is good for you.
Galatians 5:16 says:
“Walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.”
You have a choice:
Be ruled by your feelings…
or be led by Christ.
One leads to regret.
The other leads to life.
Romans 6:23 reminds us:
“For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Sin will always promise something it can’t sustain.
God always delivers what He promises.
Don’t let a temporary feeling cost you a permanent consequence.
Make the hard decision now
so you don’t have to deal with harder consequences later.
Because if you don’t take control of your feelings,
your feelings will take control of you.
Share this with someone who needs to stop letting feelings lead.
Not Anti-Sex…Just Pro-tection
God isn’t withholding pleasure—He’s protecting purpose.
Let’s clear something up.
God isn’t anti-sex.
In fact, the proof is simple—He created it.
Sex wasn’t the world’s idea… it was God’s design. And not only did He create it, He created it to be good. To be enjoyed. To be meaningful. To be powerful.
So no, God isn’t trying to withhold something from you.
He’s protecting something for you.
God wants you to experience amazing sex—but in the right context.
And that context is marriage.
Because outside of marriage, it’s not just about pleasure… it’s about timing.
And if you’re not married, it’s just not time yet.
Now let’s talk real.
Maybe you’ve already crossed that line.
Maybe you’ve participated in premarital sex.
Maybe more than once.
And here’s the truth:
You can’t change what’s already been done.
But you can decide what happens next.
I’m not here to shame you.
I’m not here to make you feel guilty about your past.
I’m here to remind you that your past does not have permission to control your future.
You can still choose purity.
You can still choose obedience.
You can still honor God with your body starting today.
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 reminds us:
“Flee from sexual immorality… you are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”
This isn’t about restriction.
It’s about alignment.
And if you’re thinking…
“But I’ve already messed up.”
Let me encourage you:
God is not standing over you disappointed.
He’s extending grace and saying, “Let’s start again.”
2 Corinthians 5:17
“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new is here!”
That means you don’t have to carry yesterday into tomorrow.
So no—God isn’t anti-sex.
He’s pro-purpose.
Pro-timing.
Pro-covenant.
Pro-you.
And today, you have a choice:
Will you keep repeating cycles…
or will you fight for your future?
What would it look like for you to honor God in this area—starting today?
He’s a Hater
Let’s be real—
Satan is the biggest hater, period.
And one of the main areas he attacks?
Your purity.
He is constantly planting negative thoughts in our minds, hoping we’ll accept them as truth.
Thoughts like:
“I can’t wait.”
“It’s too hard to stay pure.”
“Everybody’s doing it.”
“God understands… it’s not that serious.”
“I’ve already messed up, so what’s the point?”
Sound familiar?
Those aren’t your thoughts.
Those are lies.
The enemy’s goal is to keep you bound in cycles of compromise—especially when it comes to sex—so you never fully walk in the freedom God has for you.
But the old you?
The one who gave in…
The one who struggled…
The one who believed those lies—
That version of you died on the cross with Christ.
You are not who you used to be.
The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 5:17 that if anyone is in Christ, they are a new creation. The old has gone. The new is here.
Romans 6:6 reminds us that our old self was crucified with Him so that we would no longer be slaves to sin.
That means you are not a slave to your desires.
You are not controlled by your urges.
You are not powerless.
And John 8:36 says,
“So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.”
Free from what?
Free from sin.
Free from bondage.
Free from the lie that you have to give in.
So why are we still agreeing with thoughts that go against what God already said about us?
You don’t have to keep compromising.
You don’t have to keep falling.
You don’t have to keep telling yourself you can’t wait.
Because through Christ—
you can.
Your body is not meant for temporary pleasure.
It was created to honor God.
And choosing purity?
That’s not missing out.
That’s walking in power.
No Expiration Date on the Word of God
“Forever, O Lord, your word is firmly fixed in the heavens.”
— Psalm 119:89
Someone once asked me why I promote abstaining from sex until marriage. Their argument was that the scriptures about sexual purity are outdated.
They said that when those passages were written, people often married in their teenage years. Because of that, they believe people in biblical times didn’t have to struggle with sexual temptation the way we do today.
But that reasoning raises a serious question.
If certain parts of the Bible are outdated, what should we do with them?
Do you have a pair of scissors? Because if you do, maybe we should just start cutting those verses out.
We could remove the passages about sexual purity. Then maybe the ones about forgiveness. While we’re at it, we could take out the verses about loving our enemies, humility, generosity, and self-control.
Of course that sounds ridiculous.
We cannot pick and choose which parts of Scripture apply to us and which ones do not. Once we start doing that, we are no longer following God’s Word—we are creating our own version of it.
There can’t be holes in your theology, and there certainly can’t be holes in your Bible.
God’s Word does not change simply because culture changes. What God called sin thousands of years ago is still sin today. What He called holy then is still holy now.
The truth is, people in biblical times faced temptation just like we do. Human nature has not changed. That is exactly why God gave us clear instruction about how to live.
Sexual purity was never about convenience or cultural norms. It has always been about obedience and honoring God.
God’s Word stands just as strong today as it did when it was written.
So instead of making excuses for why we shouldn’t follow it, we should choose to believe it—and obey it.
Your Body is Sacred
Sexual sin is different from other sins because it violates the sacredness of our bodies.
Say it with me:
My body is sacred.
Because it is sacred, we cannot do whatever we please with what God paid such a high price for. Our bodies are not simply our own to use however we choose.
Your body belongs to God.
He created it, and through Jesus Christ He redeemed it. That means our bodies are not ordinary—they are set apart for His purposes.
When we remember that truth, it changes how we think about purity, temptation, and obedience.
If you find yourself struggling with behaviors that do not honor God, do not lose hope. Take it to the Lord in prayer. Ask the Savior to help you turn away from anything that does not please Him—in thought or in action.
God never leaves us without help. His Word reminds us that He always provides a way of escape when we are tempted.
“Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”
— 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Your body is sacred.
Honor it.
Protect it.
Use it to glorify God.
It’s Never to Late to WAIT
Today is my birthday.
A few months before my thirtieth birthday, I made the decision to recommit my body to Christ. I had lived differently before, but I knew God was calling me to something better.
Even after making that commitment, the struggle didn’t magically disappear. The flesh is real, and those desires can be strong. Talking about refraining from sex and actually refraining from sex are two very different things.
Choosing purity takes strength.
It will not happen by accident. You have to make a decision and fight for it.
And the truth is, on your own you don’t have the strength you need for that fight. That strength comes from Jesus. When we draw near to Him, He gives us the grace and power we need to overcome temptation.
Scripture reminds us:
“Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you.”
— James 4:8
During that season, I had to remind myself of something important: it was never too late to stop having premarital sex.
It’s never too late to WAIT.
Just because you cannot undo what you have already sown does not mean you cannot start sowing something new.
God’s grace allows us to make a new decision today, regardless of what yesterday looked like.
Premarital sex is a sin. God can forgive that sin—but even more than that, He desires to use your life for His glory.
And sometimes the most powerful testimony is someone who decides to stop, turn around, and honor God from this moment forward.
Because it is never too late to WAIT.