Why The Wait is Worth It
Trusting God’s Design for Relationships
One of the most common arguments against waiting is the idea that you should test sexual compatibility before committing to marriage. Some people believe it’s risky to promise lifelong commitment without first knowing whether the physical connection works.
That thinking has led to the popular mindset:
Try Before You Buy.
But marriage is about so much more than sex.
If you marry someone simply because the sexual connection is strong, your marriage will struggle. Sex is a beautiful benefit of marriage, but it is not the most important part of the union.
Marriage is built on shared faith, commitment, character, trust, and sacrifice. Sex strengthens a marriage, but it cannot sustain a marriage on its own.
Why Stop Now?
Some may ask, “I’ve already had sex, so why stop now? God will forgive me.”
This type of thinking misunderstands grace.
When we truly understand grace, we realize that God blesses us because of Jesus—not because of our obedience. But grace was never meant to encourage continued sin.
Just because you have already had sex does not mean you should continue having sex.
The more we continue in sin, the more damage we bring into our own lives. Premarital sex is harmful, but continuing in it only deepens the damage.
So why stop now?
Because it is never too late to WAIT.
But We’re Planning to Get Married
Some couples say, “We’re going to get married anyway.”
But something that might happen in the future is not a reality today.
Even if you are engaged, you are not married yet. The covenant vows made before God and witnesses matter.
You may think you will marry someone, but sometimes relationships we thought would last forever do not.
How many of us believed someone was “the one” only to find out later that they weren’t?
When we choose not to do things God’s way, we miss out on His blessings.
If you want God’s blessing in your life and in your future marriage, honor Him now while you are dating or single.
Pursue Christ First
We cannot live this way in our own strength.
You cannot abstain without the power of Christ.
You cannot find the right spouse without Christ.
You cannot build a godly marriage without Christ.
Our number one pursuit must always be Jesus.
Everything and everyone—including ourselves—must come second to Him.
If your relationship with Christ has been shallow or based more on religion than relationship, commit today to pursuing Him more deeply.
We often sing that we need more of Jesus.
But the truth is, Jesus needs more of us.
He gave us everything when He died on the cross.
Choosing to WAIT isn’t about restriction.
It’s about reverence.
It’s about honoring the One who created you.
Because when we trust God’s design, we experience God’s best.
1 Corinthians 6:20
“You were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”
WAIT.
Honor Christ with your body.
Reflection
Am I trusting God’s design for relationships and marriage?
Are my dating choices honoring Christ?
Is my relationship with Jesus the foundation of my decisions?