Don’t Open The Gift Too Soon

The book of Song of Solomon is a beautiful reminder that sex is God’s gift for a husband and wife. Throughout the book, we see romance, attraction, affection, and commitment. It celebrates love as God designed it.

Yet in the middle of all the romantic dialogue, the woman repeats the same warning three different times:

“Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.”

Why would she say that?

Because some gifts are wonderful, but they must be opened at the right time.

Imagine finding a beautifully wrapped gift with your name on it. The temptation is to tear it open immediately. But if the gift is meant for a later date, opening it too soon can rob you of the joy and purpose it was intended to bring.

Sex is one of God’s gifts. The gift isn’t the problem. The timing is.

Our culture tells us to follow our feelings, satisfy our desires, and pursue whatever makes us happy in the moment. God’s Word tells us to exercise self-control, honor Him with our bodies, and wait for His timing.

Song of Solomon reminds us that attraction is normal. Desire is normal. Romance is normal. 

But just because something is good doesn’t mean it is time.

Three times the woman charges young women not to stir up or awaken love before its proper time. Through all the passion and romance, she still points us toward patience.

If you’re single, don’t mistake waiting for punishment. God isn’t withholding something good from you. He is protecting a gift He designed to be enjoyed within marriage.

Don’t open the gift too soon. Trust the One who wrapped it.

He knows exactly when it’s time.